The Wedding Planning Guide

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The Wedding Is For You

There’s a lot you can do for your wedding, almost too much these days. A quick glance on Instagram and Pinterest will overwhelm anyone with wedding ideas. I’m a strong advocate of personalities and lifestyles influencing your wedding and overall look, rather than social media. Don’t follow trends or replicate something because it worked for someone else. Take Princess Diana’s wedding dress as an example, yeah, probably won’t work for you, unless you’re into that look. It’s my job as a photographer to help you design the wedding the way you are. I’ve seen hundreds of weddings during my years as an editor, with endless styles and ideas, some of them work, some don’t. Which is why I believe in simplicity, as this will give your photos a timeless and elegant look that’ll stand the test of time. 

A common misconception is that your wedding should be perfect for your guests, this is not and shouldn’t be true. The wedding is taking place because there’s you as a couple, the celebration of your love, the sharing of your love with your guests and without that, the wedding wouldn’t even be taking place. As a wedding photographer, I say to you, do what suits you both as individuals. Create a wedding day that’s the way you are, the perfect day that suits you both. Integrate your lifestyles into the wedding design. A perfect example would be the first dance. Not the greatest dancers? Don’t fret. Last year for the first dance, my clients opted for a ‘Everyone Loves Kung-Fu Fighting’ dance routine instead of a slow first dance, with martial art moves and everything. Guests quickly joined the couple on the dance floor with their very own Kung-Fu moves. At the end of the day, don’t be afraid to show your individuality during your wedding. The more you add yourself in the details, the more memorable the wedding will become.

Don’t let anyone tell you what to do! Dare to question which traditions are necessary for you, which ones you absolutely love, and which of them make no sense to you. More than likely, you’re paying for your own wedding, so plan the wedding the way you want it to be. Your relatives who don’t understand your decisions now, will get over it sooner than you think. Your guests are allowed to share this day with you but, it’s not about them, it’s about you. Guests who love you and attend the wedding for you and not for themselves, will accept and support your decisions.

Following the advice I have put together in this five part guide, will help both of us create the natural, bright photos you see in my portfolio. I hope my advice will inspire you to follow your own path during the planning process. As I mentioned earlier, there’s an infinite amount of things involved during wedding planning, and it’s nearly impossible to cover everything in this seven part guide, so I’ve narrowed it down to topics that are most relevant to photography and our time together. We’re in this together, so let’s plan the wedding of a lifetime.